So He's Had an Affair - Do You Forgive Him Or Do You Ditch Him?

You know what, if you asked me this question 5 years ago before I had kids, my stock answer would be a blow to an idiot in touch. Now that I have kids and am a mom, it's not as straight forward as the first of May to do. If my husband had the affair now, and the obvious tears and punching him in the face, there would also be a lot of thinking before he definitely got my foot in your behind, pushing him out the door at high speed.

I actually found myself about a month or two before reflecting that I could not understand why people have jobs. Even I thought wistfully of a former partner with whom sex was amazing. Still, I'd be mortified if my husband had one or even considering one. In my case, I have a 4 y ears old and a daughter who has just gone 9 months. My four years old was only in kindergarten for a half weeks, which means that from the moment I get up at 6:00, I'm always on request and a call when I go to sleep. As I am still nursing, my little Munchkin is also in bed with me and cut into 2-3 times each night to feed. So I am constantly attached metaphorically and physically to someone 24 / 7

the best is when I go for number 2 (poo! sorry!) and I am with other children waiting outside the bathroom door with a 4 year old asks, 'What I've finished yet, it is a big one, and I do not smell I'll hurry, so you can build your own train track! 'I can smile about it now, but at that time, my initial response was to say' F ** k O ** and leave me alone please! "Now fast forward to 21:00 when I put the kids to bed, finished washing / cleaning, and I finally managed to sit in a vain attempt to get 5 minutes of my time'...

and then starts again, but this time as a huge kid who also goes by the name of my husband, who have fallen asleep on the couch, and now wants me to get JIGGY with him because he is now in the mood. Mmm - sleep - sex? Sex - sleep? No contest. Sorry guys, sleep wins hands down every time.

So, this scene is replayed every night, every night with my rebutting my husband and brushing off his well-intentioned ham aggressive attempt yet to show me how much he loves me and finding every excuse to why I should have sex with him. There are only so many headaches, period, not in the mood 'I can give him before he starts to think that I do not like or even worse, fancy or find it more appealing.

and that my dear, when the affair rot can set in. However ugly, boring, fat, short might think that your husband is, rest assured that there is someone somewhere will think it is a gift from God and that Most have known the man's shoulder to cry on for him. Those on the other side will welcome the attention of someone you love and leave with no strings attached, no pressure or preferably not talking about children, housework, and money - the list goes on. You can forget about your boring day-to-day life, if only for a few hours. Bliss. Or so you think.

Put yourself in their position. Cliched I know but so true. How would you feel if the person you love is always rejected your advances? After some time, and will stop trying, give up and be more receptive to other offers. Men are 'wired' differently to us and while women should have their "thoughts" to include on the job, I found that most of the time, it's testosterone that drives men and as long as they get a release, they will go almost anywhere where to get it.

So, if you find out that your husband had an affair or thinking about it, before you throw him and his cabinet out, only a reflective moment to make sure that this is not something that he might were pushed towards.

It happens every day to get divorced couples sitting across the table from each other that they want that they can improve their relationship and give it another go, but I think things have gone too far. Perhaps a few moments of thinking can prevent that. If, after taking time out to see if you can or even want to forgive your man, you still want to share, then go for it. Knowing that you took the time to really think through, how difficult a decision, you will feel much better for it.